Re: Ban and unban appeals
Posted: Mon 5. Mar 2012, 16:53
Alright, let's start.
First off, the most simple thing: the server rules.
Insulting other players: not allowed.
Switching to the winning team: not allowed.
Sabotage: not allowed.
I know kring and Eif for a long time now and I'm convinced they usually don't do all this. If this was happening anyway, there obviously are some battles in the personal area going on. But interpersonal relationships, sympathies and antipathies are definitely not my business. I'm only an admin. I'm responsible for a smooth server operation and players following the fairplay rules. In that function I have to say: kring and Eif, if you were doing things like mentioned above or showing other blacklisted behaviours as stated here http://www.ceonss.net/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=13, you clearly have to stop it.
But that little statement regarding this isolated case will not be sufficient as there are obviously far more than just two or three people involved. So this is the point where the case is getting complicated.
From my perspective, we seem to have (at least) two completely different player categories: One player type is very ambitious, always looking for sportive matches and some challenge, whilst the focus of the other group is just fun and some distraction from the real life. The question is: do we want both player groups? The answer is: It's a public Onslaught server, thus, hell yeah, we do want both! But they have to respect each other, no matter what you think about the other. Hey, there's plenty of room for both and it won't work out well if there's no respect and tolerance. Imagine a server with just one group: Do we want a server with ambitious and top-skilled players only? Of course not, would be boring as hell! On the other end, do we want a server with fun & joking only? Well no, of course not! It's the mix of all of the player groups that makes it both interesting and funny.
As for possible complexes & stuff: Neither the boards nor the server are the decent places to analyse somebodys character, personality or even his childhood. That's something personal hence almost always leads to one feeling offended and insulted. There's no room for this here, it doesn't help clarifying let alone calming down the situation, has absolutely no business on the server & forums. You may dislike, hate or even despise a player. That's quite natural in human groups and their dynamics. Come on, just keep it to yourselves, I don't see the point in living it out on the server. It's a fun zone, not a place to let out your aggressions. Be tolerant and respect each other.
Humor: Most evidently, one reason for the personal grudges is the different taste of humor. I'm convinced that all of us do have some sort of humor. One more than the other, one different from the others taste. As Pegasus said within the admins section: "people's taste in humour can vary. What's harmless teasing to one can be an offensive waste of precious little free UT time to another". That's so true, just accept it. I will surely NOT ban or warn anyone due to having a special kind of humor! For example, take Spankys humor: I get it, can take it and love it. During the last years he so often made me laugh so damn hard, I sometimes instantly spat out my beer onto the keyboard and had to clean it afterwards (once I had to buy a new one). I'd so miss it if it would be gone. By the way, when I was a noob he was the first one saying "ok dude, you're ketchup" and "Heinz is ketchup now" after I got lucky enough to kill him with a Goliath or Cicada once in a while and he came back bringing down my vec. I laughed so hard, hence my avatar. For the record, that's only when he's harmlessly joking this way. But uuh well, sadly there are other players not getting this sort of humor but feel offended.
So, this specific example aside, in general, my advice would be to get used to different kinds of humor. If you absolutely not get it nor like it, please say to yourselves "okay, he's just joking, I don't like this kind of humor but oh well" and give it a rest. On the other side, when you're the one joking and the other person you were talking to obviously doesn't get your jokes, not liking them at all, then why go on teasing? Just stop it and give it rest as well!
That being said in general, it's time to go into details:
@kring: I know you are usually not winning team switching so I presume it was not to unbalance teams but for some personal issues with Thom. Same goes for sabotaging - was it on purpose? As I stated above, of course, it's not allowed. You know, it would be a valid ban reason. So, please stop teasing Thom, just leave him alone. Especially your sexual-related jokes like "lickm plz", "smoke my cock", "show me your nille" are going way overboard, definitely. Generally, please omit your sexual jokes, most of the players get offended and there are enough other internet services available to live this passion out ;-)
@Eiforia: You might also dislike Thom, but keep your thoughts about him to yourself, don't assume complexes, please.
@Thom: My guess is, that this all started with kring's playing style. Yes indeed, he's camping a lot with his Hellbender. In your opinion, it's "lameass camping style", his point of view probably is that he's defending a node in a relaxed but effective way. Well, it's a different playing style compared to yours. You're a busy bee and he's camping. Okay, it's maybe not the very finest and sportiest style, but it's clearly not a ban reason. You probably played some time on american servers and might have noticed that there is a major number of players with exactly the same style. So, you might dislike kring for this and even despise him, but it's a different style and to be tolerated.
The fact, that many players got involved and that you're faced with so many animosities shows us that this playing style and personal battle topic with kring & Eifo can't be seen as an isolated case; there must be something more sleeping underneath the surface. So let us consider why this happened, apparently seems to keep happening and allow me trying to approach the virtual reason: In general, you're tending to teach others of what's fair, sportive and what is not. Well, as far as I can tell, you're mostly absolutely right with your perception and judging. No question about that. I think the problem lies with the fact that you even address persons that were playing already for many years. Thom, there's no point in trying to educate long-term players. Spanky for example plays UT since 99. He doesn't need any advices, he knows the rules & all. And he surely will not change anything regarding his playing style. Having played for so many years but getting taught by someone is not very, let's say pleasant . So it's better to omit these advices.
Of course, speaking in general again, it's something different with sabotaging, teamkilling, cheating & such. That is not to be tolerated, no doubt, and every comment about it will be understandable if not, welcome.
In conclusion, yes, you're mostly right but please think twice whom you're telling what. Be a bit more tolerant towards other playing styles and stay a bit more relaxed when someone is joking, even when it's a joke going wrong.
Sooo, that's all, I hope I've dealt with all the most important topics and did hit the actual reasons of this case. I tried to be as objective as possible. Keep in mind that there never is objectivity, but always subjectivity and the illusion of objectivity. Lastly, I'm hoping I was able to have addressed all of this without getting on the wrong side of anybody. You're all welcome on the server, don't want to lose you as players. I hate having to play the smartass role, but obviously, a couple of phrases wouldn't have been sufficient.
I kept my advices as lean as possible. They are not asking too much of any of you, I think. Nevertheless I hope that, if you follow them, you'll get along with each other and we are going to have a friendly and nice atmosphere again.
Now, do we have a deal?
First off, the most simple thing: the server rules.
Insulting other players: not allowed.
Switching to the winning team: not allowed.
Sabotage: not allowed.
I know kring and Eif for a long time now and I'm convinced they usually don't do all this. If this was happening anyway, there obviously are some battles in the personal area going on. But interpersonal relationships, sympathies and antipathies are definitely not my business. I'm only an admin. I'm responsible for a smooth server operation and players following the fairplay rules. In that function I have to say: kring and Eif, if you were doing things like mentioned above or showing other blacklisted behaviours as stated here http://www.ceonss.net/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=13, you clearly have to stop it.
But that little statement regarding this isolated case will not be sufficient as there are obviously far more than just two or three people involved. So this is the point where the case is getting complicated.
From my perspective, we seem to have (at least) two completely different player categories: One player type is very ambitious, always looking for sportive matches and some challenge, whilst the focus of the other group is just fun and some distraction from the real life. The question is: do we want both player groups? The answer is: It's a public Onslaught server, thus, hell yeah, we do want both! But they have to respect each other, no matter what you think about the other. Hey, there's plenty of room for both and it won't work out well if there's no respect and tolerance. Imagine a server with just one group: Do we want a server with ambitious and top-skilled players only? Of course not, would be boring as hell! On the other end, do we want a server with fun & joking only? Well no, of course not! It's the mix of all of the player groups that makes it both interesting and funny.
As for possible complexes & stuff: Neither the boards nor the server are the decent places to analyse somebodys character, personality or even his childhood. That's something personal hence almost always leads to one feeling offended and insulted. There's no room for this here, it doesn't help clarifying let alone calming down the situation, has absolutely no business on the server & forums. You may dislike, hate or even despise a player. That's quite natural in human groups and their dynamics. Come on, just keep it to yourselves, I don't see the point in living it out on the server. It's a fun zone, not a place to let out your aggressions. Be tolerant and respect each other.
Humor: Most evidently, one reason for the personal grudges is the different taste of humor. I'm convinced that all of us do have some sort of humor. One more than the other, one different from the others taste. As Pegasus said within the admins section: "people's taste in humour can vary. What's harmless teasing to one can be an offensive waste of precious little free UT time to another". That's so true, just accept it. I will surely NOT ban or warn anyone due to having a special kind of humor! For example, take Spankys humor: I get it, can take it and love it. During the last years he so often made me laugh so damn hard, I sometimes instantly spat out my beer onto the keyboard and had to clean it afterwards (once I had to buy a new one). I'd so miss it if it would be gone. By the way, when I was a noob he was the first one saying "ok dude, you're ketchup" and "Heinz is ketchup now" after I got lucky enough to kill him with a Goliath or Cicada once in a while and he came back bringing down my vec. I laughed so hard, hence my avatar. For the record, that's only when he's harmlessly joking this way. But uuh well, sadly there are other players not getting this sort of humor but feel offended.
So, this specific example aside, in general, my advice would be to get used to different kinds of humor. If you absolutely not get it nor like it, please say to yourselves "okay, he's just joking, I don't like this kind of humor but oh well" and give it a rest. On the other side, when you're the one joking and the other person you were talking to obviously doesn't get your jokes, not liking them at all, then why go on teasing? Just stop it and give it rest as well!
That being said in general, it's time to go into details:
@kring: I know you are usually not winning team switching so I presume it was not to unbalance teams but for some personal issues with Thom. Same goes for sabotaging - was it on purpose? As I stated above, of course, it's not allowed. You know, it would be a valid ban reason. So, please stop teasing Thom, just leave him alone. Especially your sexual-related jokes like "lickm plz", "smoke my cock", "show me your nille" are going way overboard, definitely. Generally, please omit your sexual jokes, most of the players get offended and there are enough other internet services available to live this passion out ;-)
@Eiforia: You might also dislike Thom, but keep your thoughts about him to yourself, don't assume complexes, please.
@Thom: My guess is, that this all started with kring's playing style. Yes indeed, he's camping a lot with his Hellbender. In your opinion, it's "lameass camping style", his point of view probably is that he's defending a node in a relaxed but effective way. Well, it's a different playing style compared to yours. You're a busy bee and he's camping. Okay, it's maybe not the very finest and sportiest style, but it's clearly not a ban reason. You probably played some time on american servers and might have noticed that there is a major number of players with exactly the same style. So, you might dislike kring for this and even despise him, but it's a different style and to be tolerated.
The fact, that many players got involved and that you're faced with so many animosities shows us that this playing style and personal battle topic with kring & Eifo can't be seen as an isolated case; there must be something more sleeping underneath the surface. So let us consider why this happened, apparently seems to keep happening and allow me trying to approach the virtual reason: In general, you're tending to teach others of what's fair, sportive and what is not. Well, as far as I can tell, you're mostly absolutely right with your perception and judging. No question about that. I think the problem lies with the fact that you even address persons that were playing already for many years. Thom, there's no point in trying to educate long-term players. Spanky for example plays UT since 99. He doesn't need any advices, he knows the rules & all. And he surely will not change anything regarding his playing style. Having played for so many years but getting taught by someone is not very, let's say pleasant . So it's better to omit these advices.
Of course, speaking in general again, it's something different with sabotaging, teamkilling, cheating & such. That is not to be tolerated, no doubt, and every comment about it will be understandable if not, welcome.
In conclusion, yes, you're mostly right but please think twice whom you're telling what. Be a bit more tolerant towards other playing styles and stay a bit more relaxed when someone is joking, even when it's a joke going wrong.
Sooo, that's all, I hope I've dealt with all the most important topics and did hit the actual reasons of this case. I tried to be as objective as possible. Keep in mind that there never is objectivity, but always subjectivity and the illusion of objectivity. Lastly, I'm hoping I was able to have addressed all of this without getting on the wrong side of anybody. You're all welcome on the server, don't want to lose you as players. I hate having to play the smartass role, but obviously, a couple of phrases wouldn't have been sufficient.
I kept my advices as lean as possible. They are not asking too much of any of you, I think. Nevertheless I hope that, if you follow them, you'll get along with each other and we are going to have a friendly and nice atmosphere again.
Now, do we have a deal?