With the game's age (UT2004 will turn 10 this March) you'd expect the majority of players to be grown ups and thus a little more mature. If you're having problems in real life, I recommend putting them away when you join the server. If you want, you can probably even talk about them here on the forum, but please don't channel your anger about your situation or people you need to deal with towards the players who can't do anything about it.

And if it's really about those players, why didn't you speak up earlier already before things got explosive? Don't build up these things, speak out your concerns before they become a problem.